. QUOTE: "People say they are attracted to confidence, but how often
do you meet a confident person who doesn't tend to act like a jerk? It's
all too common for mere confidence to cross the threshold into
arrogance. But that's what people want."
This is where you fall into the trap that the average powerless person
does. You assume that people who act like jerks are powerful. They are
just as powerless as you, they just express it in a different way. Both
tigers and mice are powerless. People play victim and victimizer for the
same reason. Confident (confidence is based on power) people do
neither. Quite literally, for no other reason than they don't have to.
Going from a not confident to a confident person involves only one
thing... cultivating power. Do all of those things likely to bring you
power. Work out until you are strong. Mind your business until you are
rich. Eliminate useless behaviours. Build your kingdom of people and
resources until it is unassailable. Be competent in everything you do.
Those are the things that bring confidence. Nothing else does.
QUOTE: "Whether we like to admit it or not, we are all the products
of our own little environments. We have been moulded and shaped by those
people who have been a part of our lives. Our mothers created our
physical bodies, but our peers created who we really are. It was our
peers who taught us how to behave, because it is our peers that we want
so much to be with. We want their acceptance, we want to belong, and the
only way we can belong is if we become like them."
People are most definitely not the product of their environment. We are the products of the choices we make,
every single moment of every day. Change happens the very moment you
decide I'm going to be different, today, right now, for this specific
thing. Do enough of those little specific changes and the change
generalizes. Almost nothing else except a person’s free will and choice
has the power to determine a person’s behavior. Once you understand and
know how to use this, everything else falls into place.
Part of the process is when a person understands that there is a
tendency to seek approval and acceptance from others. However, that
tendency isn't normal. It's neurotic. Once you know this, you can make huge gains in your life by examining it for behaviours that are approval seeking... and stopping them. People (especially women) manipulate you through your approval seeking behaviours. If you eliminate them, they have nothing to grab hold of. Also, eliminating these will make you feel much, much
better about yourself. Approval seeking, even if you get the approval,
makes you feel bad. But, like smoking, even though it is bad for you,
it's addictive. You need to be ever vigilant for backsliding with this.
But the effort is well worth it.
. Truth Hurts
.
There are problems with women. These problems are specific,
identifiable, and universal in western culture. The problems have
extremely serious consequences for men who do not take the correct steps
to prevent those consequences.
The first step is to let go of denial, prejudice and narcissism as
methods of coping and replace them with an attitude of learning,
testing, and then skill development. Until you do that, there is no hope
of improving the situation. Instead, you will be powerless in the face
of the extreme problems with women and will suffer all manner of fucked
upness, from crushing lonliness and depression, to rejection, financial
ruin, loss of family, or even loss of freedom or loss of life. It’s not a
few men who have this happen to them….or even a lot of men. Its most
men….pretty close to all men.
The truth is harsh. So harsh that most men can’t deal with it, so they
pretend the problem doesn’t exist. They make up excuses and moralisms
and offer ignorant, trite, completely ineffective solutions that ignore
the reality of the situation. Worse, they openly ridicule any methods
that take into account those realities (so what, if they work). Why?
Because in any way exploring those solutions, threatens the denial of
the problem. They absolutely refuse to see things the way they really
are or to test the effectiveness of both their attitudes, philosophies
and beliefs, and, more importantly, their specific behavior.
This situation is common as dirt and is the first hurdle any man needs
to conquer, in order to make anything of himself in life (in any
sphere). But once you do, then the important task of sorting out what
works, from what doesn’t can begin.
Want to learn most everything about this problem and, specifically, what
to do about it? Read the book, “The Ultimate Secrets of Total
Self-Confidence” by Dr. Robert Anthony, and do what he tells you to do.
Your effectiveness as a man will sky-rocket.
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Let me answer that. No, it's not true. Women would like you to believe
it is true. But it's not. There is a grain of truth to this in that men
highly value women in their reproductive prime. Also, highly deviant
males sometimes act this way. But it is a far cry from the norm.
Although there is a grain of truth to the sentiment, the statement is
false. It's actually patently ridiculous.
It assumes that women can get sex any time they want, but don’t want it as much as men.
Both of these are not true. You only have to look at the amount of time
almost every woman spends desperately trying to attract a man to know
it's not true. If it were true, women would just show up. They don't do
that. They spend hours and hours finding the right outfit, making sure
her makeup and hair is perfect, not to mention a thousand other things, carefully intended to attract men.
Click Pic for "Male and Female: Equal but Different"
There is no way around it. Men pursue and women attract. In most normal cultures, the woman makes it very clear when and who she wants and the man then either steps right up to the plate, or doesn’t, depending on his inclination. Women compete with eachother in this way
to get the best man they can. Women in our country want you to believe
that they are so unbelievably high status that they can snap their
fingers and get any man they want and that their main problem is beating
them off with a stick. The reality is far different. The average woman either whores around (ie. takes anyone she can get) or spends long periods of time dateless. Either way, they go to great lengths to attract, but are way too neurotic to choose who, let alone make it obvious that they are interested. Plus, if you are interested, your value plummets and they don’t want you anymore.
The problem isn't that the guy is a loser. The problem is that the
woman is a neurotic freak who lost touch with reality a long time ago.
She can't engage the mating game in any sane way... and loses big time
for it. A woman has ten to fifteen years to get herself a man. After
that, she is only good for occassional sex. Her status reflects that. Too many women find this out after it is far too late to do something about it.
Understand that when women are playing this game they are trying to fool
you about something. They want you to be misinformed about your worth
and options relative to hers, not only as an individual but men as a
group. They do this for two reasons. They want to get someone much
better than they normally should be able to (but are far too lazy and fucked up to, ummm, make themselves better). And they want you to accept behavior from them that you never would, if you knew you had options.
Don't be fooled by this. Laugh in the face of any fruitloop who thinks she can act bitchy toward you.
Plenty of fish in the sea.
Women Want Sex More Than Men
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Women want sex much more than men, not that they succeed at getting sex
or having a good sexual relationship much more than men. You guys are
forgetting that women are freakin’ nuts. And that insanity puts serious neurotic restrictions on her sexual expression.
An example. I had a woman friend that became more and more insane as she
got older, eventually resulting in my expelling her from my life.
Before that, I noticed that about once a month, she would pick up a
couple of random guys at a bar (strong hormonal component). She was
quite fond of telling me all about these wild sexual escapades. But I
also knew her through several "relationships". They all followed the
same pattern. The more intimate and close she became with a man
(especially if he moved in with her), the more she lost sexual
interest... to the point of becoming frigid. But she would still go out
and pick up random guys on the sly. At one point I told her how I would
never put up with that from a woman. To which she quipped, "Well, what
the hell would you do about it?" Without skipping a beat I said I'd dump
her skank ass.
My point here is the sex drive in this person was so strong that she
really wasn't in control of it and her neuroses and being a miserable
a-hole in general prevented her from channelling that into something
positive (it actually got more and more negative as she got older). A
lot of guys I know have run into this problem. She's a fiend in the sack
until they get to know each other. Suddenly, she is frigid. But all
these sexual skeletons keep falling out of her closet.
The high desire for sex is something I've observed over and over again
with women. There are two things going on here. The first is that women
are going out of their way to paint the picture that men want sex while
women need to be convinced grudgingly give in to sex (plus baby, if not
with me, you ain't gettin' anywhere else, because most women don't want
it either). These are lies, specifically designed to inappropriately get
the upper hand in relationships. The other thing going on is women are
sick. They want sex lots more than men but are sexually dysfunctional.
They have bizarre things like intense anxiety if they feel sexual
attraction for the wrong (wrong being some weird random thing) man. They
get angry if the "wrong" man approaches them because they feel guilty
about that attraction and even more guilty about randomly fucking one of
them on a regular basis (a situation they have little to no control
over). Some are so anxiety ridden that they rarely have a man in their
life and when they do, the conflicts and weirdness quickly drive him
away.
This is why you have fundamentalist Christian babes
who think sex out of marriage is amoral, but who regularly have some
random guy strap them to an A-frame and whip the fuck out of them. A lot
of similar stuff is going on in our society.
"He said he didn't think we were a good 'fit'."
But none of this really matters. What matters is that no matter what
women want you to think, there are a great many women around you who are
all hot and horny for you. They hide it. It requires the ability to recognize and elicit subtle signals to tell who they are. It requires timing and the ability to known when and exactly how
to strike when the iron is hot. There is never a reason to think that a
woman is doing you a favour by having sex with you (requiring you
return the favour in a manner other than sexual) or to think you can't
walk away from a bad situation and within a reasonable period of time,
get another one. If a woman is having sex with you, she is doing it
because she likes sex, specifically with you. Don't be fooled and don't
tolerate her neuroses. If she starts to lose interest, dump her. That
lack of interest has nothing to do with lack of interest in sex. It has
to do with bad behavior and lack of respect for you. It magically
disappears 10 seconds after you are gone. This is VERY important to
understand about women. Frigidity has NOTHING to do with lack of sexual interest.
It has to do with lack of respect (you will see plenty of this in all
other aspects of your relationship). Don't put up with that crap.
. "Are you a slave? If so, you cannot be a friend. Are you a tyrant? If
so, you cannot have friends. In woman, a slave and a tyrant have all
too long been concealed. For that reason, woman is not yet capable of
friendship: she knows only love. In a woman's love is injustice and
blindness towards all that she does not love. And in the enlightened
love of a woman, too, there is still the unexpected attack and lightning
and night, along with the light. Woman is not yet capable of
friendship: women are still cats and birds. Or, at best, cows. Woman is
not yet capable of friendship. But tell me, you men, which of you is yet
capable of friendship?" - Nietzsche
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Women “friends” will ACTIVELY sabotage any attempt you make to pursue
any other woman, friend of theirs or not. If they do find out you are
with a woman, they will act all pissed off and jealous and may even get
rid of you.
An example: I had this “friend” of mine from college. Occasionally I’d
visit her and we’d hang out or something. Several times female friends
of hers would be around and I’d ask about them. One time she told me
this girl was a lesbian and that she absolutely hated men (I had sex
with that one, hehehe). Another, she told me she was married (a lie). A
third, she told me that the girl thought I was unattractive (I slept
with that one too). The point here is my “friend” would continually try
to cock-block me. The reason is simple: she wanted me for herself…..just
not today (or any other time she had access to a man….I was her
reserve).
I’d also like to point out that my “friend” thought it was just okay
fine to let me drive 1000 miles to go see her and then not be there. I
haven’t seen her since.
Women “friends” don’t care about you. What they care about is keeping a
man (or several) in reserve, in case they want them later.
. Never Allow a Woman to Call You a Friend Until You've Had Sex At Least Once
. I’ve been friends with many women and had sex with them. If anything, my
sexual desire for them has made me a better friend because the level of
intimacy and their importance to me is greater. The problem is, they
won’t be friends back. Totally self-absorbed and obsessed with
self-destructive and manipulative behavior, women aren’t capable of
being anyone’s friend.
However, that’s not what we are really talking about here. We’re talking
about a woman who actually rejects you as a man but wants to use you
for something. To keep you in her life, she makes you a “friend”. But
what does that mean? It means you are a second class love interest. You
are expected to do things for her but are unworthy of her doing things
for you. There are a great many things a woman COULD do for you as a
real friend (for example, actually give a shit about you, lol). However,
the only thing women actually do for men, is give them sex. At least,
that’s the only thing my female friends ever gave me, despite what I
wanted from them. Never allow a woman to call you a friend until you’ve
had sex with her at least once. And for God’s sake, don’t believe her
when she says it. You may be her friend. But she isn’t yours. She may be
your lover but you are nothing but disposable to her. In the beginning,
you have some respect from her that rapidly diminishes. When it’s gone,
so is she. But if you start out as “friends”, there will never be even a
shred of respect for you. You are NEVER a friend to her. You are that guy she keeps around that isn’t good enough to be her lover.
This doesn’t mean you should commit to a woman….no, no, no. What this
does mean is the relationship only lasts as long as she is still willing
to work hard and compete in order to “get” you. When that behavior
ends, she usually leaves (note that actually “getting” you tends to end
the behavior made). Sometimes though, they want to hang on for various
reasons. Don’t let them.ou are NEVER a friend to her. You are that
guy she keeps around that isn’t good enough to be her lover.
. Friends with Benefits
. I’ve done the "friends with benefits" thing too. Basically, what
happened was a woman I was in a relationship with demoted me to the
status of sex object (I don’t want to be your boyfriend anymore, but I
still want to have sex). The point of this situation is their respect
for you has dropped to a very low point, but they still need you for
something (in my case, it was for sex, but many times, it is something
more utilitarian). Their behavior towards you gets more and more
uncaring and disrespectful. Just say no.
This doesn’t mean you should commit to a woman….no, no, no. What this
does mean is the relationship only lasts as long as she is still willing
to work hard and compete in order to “get” you. When that behavior
ends, she usually leaves (note that actually “getting” you tends to end
the behavior made). Sometimes though, they want to hang on for various
reasons. Don’t let them.
. Ladder Theory
.
The problem with Ladder Theory
is it assumes women make choices based on an objective evaluation of
the value of a man that is commonly agreed upon. All you have to do is
look around to see that isn’t true. If anything, we have a big problem
in our culture with criminal status men gaining access to normal and high status women…..often
ruining them in the process. Also, the idea that there is a friend
ladder and a sex ladder isn’t true. People can and do “hop ladders” all
the time, with little or no effort, simply by changing their behavior
toward the person. If anything, women keep their so-called male friends
as a “dick in reserve”. Is that really a separate ladder? No. She is
just giving a guy that should be given high priority because of his
traits (looks, personality etc.) low priority because he isn’t acting in
the way that stimulates her neurotic personality correctly.
The problem with women is they are nuts.
When you meet them and start to get “involved” with them, from your
perspective, you are building a relationship……something real, that has
permanence over time. That’s what people who are involved are supposed
to be doing. But that’s not what she is doing. From her point of view,
although she gives lip service to the relationship, she will only stick
around for as long as you provoke strong feelings in her.
The moment you slip, even if you are married with kids for 20 years,
she is gone. The sicker ones don’t care if the feelings are positive or
negative. Want to hop ladders? Learn to provoke strong feelings in her.
She’ll jump your bones.
Ladder theory is the way things should be. Want a hot, high status,
young, fertile woman? Then go to the gym until your body looks like a
model’s, wear expensive fashionable clothes, and get a high-paying,
high-status job where you are the boss. Sounds great. Those are all
things a powerful, motivated man can and usually will do. There is a
problem though. IT DOESN’T WORK. Women don’t give priority to men like
that. They say they do, but their behavior doesn’t match up with this.
You’ll get more play as a dirty, dishevelled member of a rock band that
is going nowhere fast or as a drug dealer. Even the women that do go for
the man with money are only looking to exploit him. They don’t want
him, they want his money. Of course, they don’t want a strong man with
money (because he’ll keep her on a tight leash). They want a WEAK, low
status man with money.
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. "Corresponding to true women, there are extremely female men who are to be found
always in the apartments of the women, and who are interested in nothing but
love and sexual matters. Such men, however, are not the Don Juans." -- Otto Weininger, Sex and Character, Male and Female Sexuality
. "He is polite and rather anxious to please. He wishes always to do the
thing which happens to be the proper thing at any given time. He never
would think of initiating anything novel or starting out in a new and
unexpected course. He likes very much to be with ladies, and ladies like him – in a way.
He is a most useful creature and absolutely harmless, intended by
Providence to carry wraps and rugs, to order carriages, to provide
theater-tickets, flowers, bon-bons, opera-boxes and four-in-hands,
according to his means and the position which he holds. He will call
regularly upon a girl and in fact upon all the girls he knows, and he
will keep it up for years, and it will never mean anything to him or to
them, for he is essentially a tame cat…He is really an
indispensable person in our modern life; for it is desirable that young
women should have some male creature about them to fetch and carry – one
who will do it all for the mere pleasure of the service, and who will
never agitate them and disquiet them or make them feel it necessary to
be on their guard.: -- Excerpt from a 1902 issue of Cosmopolitan Magazine. .
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It's important to understand how a woman undermines the ability of a man
to walk away from a bad situation, in order to prevent falling into a
bad situation by degrees.
1). The first thing she will want to do is spend more and more time with
you. This is the most innocuous and insidious of her tools, because it
is quite a reasonable thing for two people to do when they enjoy
eachother’s company. Often, she will make the sex incredible (the best
sex you will ever have with her) to promote you wanting to see her more
and more. This is the best place for a man to resist, with the most
rewards, but also the most unstable. You must put limits on her by being
"busy". Although you shouldn't tell her unless directly questioned, ”busy” includes seeing other women.
If you have a number of pearls on a string, it is perfectly OK to say
upfront that "busy" means you are unavailable with another girl unless
she is into threesomes. Women will work the hardest here and enjoy your
company the most, but will wander off with a guy who seems like he might
marry her.
2). After she is seeing you often and regularly, she will want to be
exclusive. This isn't that bad for a man but can cause problems because
the skills you use to get other women become rusty (that's part of the
point). At this stage, women will do tons of things to try and make you
dependent on her. The sex is still good but the focus shifts on her
trying to make you emotionally dependant on her. If you let things slip
to this point, you basically have a limited time before she dumps you if
you won't "commit". Understand that she is 100% seeing other guys behind your back though,
if you are formally her boyfriend or not. "Commitment" is always a one
way street, 100% of the time. The only thing that will force her to
actually be exclusive with you is if she can't get anyone else (you
should never be with a girl like that because she will secretly despise you for it).
3). After you two are an item comes the obnoxious and constant attempts to manufacture a ”living together”
type of situation. She will constantly leave stuff over at your place
and change things around to suit her taste. She will bring it up again
and again and is likely to manufacture a situation where she becomes
homeless and needs to move in with you. Expect ultimatums. Expect
fights. Expect downright obsessive behavior, especially if you are
"cheating" on her. The good news is she will be much less likely to fuck
other guys if she is living with you (if she does, it means she is
either insane or about to dump you). The bad news is it will be
incredibly difficult to get rid of her and she will literally rip your
life up by the roots once she gets tired of waiting for marriage and
leaves. This is the absolute last stand for a guy. If you screw up here,
you will have a tough time of it.
4). When you live together, depending on the woman and how old you two
are, comes the constant nagging for an engagement ring. It begins with
attempted brain washing and dissolves into fighting if you resist. If
you ever flat out tell her you won't marry her, ever, for any reason,
she will burn your life and leave. However, she can and will cheat on
you without a second thought. "Commitment" is always a one way street.
If you catch her, she will beg for forgiveness and try to bend the
situation into a marriage proposal, or burn your life and leave. The
older you two are, the shorter this time period. If you meet a girl in
college (cough) it can last a rollercoaster ride, a decade long. If you
meet her when you are 30, expect demands for marriage within 6 months.
If she is 35, the demands will be angry and psychotic. However, she can
and usually will, leave without a second thought. It will be as if you two were never together. This last is probably the most important reason to never get married.
It's a scam. Your lover never bothered to develop deep feelings for you
even though she has done everything in her power to make you have them
for her. You must be very, very careful here because most girls will
attempt to get pregnant to try and force you into marrying them. If you
say no, they will either get an abortion or seek child support from you.
Note that a significant portion of the time (perhaps as high as 30%, by
some estimates) the child isn't yours. This is a purposeful response to
careful birth control efforts on your part. Always make sure you know
if she leaves and has a bun in the oven. Always get a DNA test. Be
knowledgeable of wacko laws regarding this, especially if you live in a
granola state (managed by nuts, fruits and flakes) like New York or
California.
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5). After the engagement immediately comes the specific dates and
wedding plans, etc. Things are good but you have this nagging feeling
that she actually hates your guts and plans to crucify you the second
you get back from the honeymoon. Trust your instincts.
If you push the wedding date back too much, she will likely fuck
someone else and dump you... unless you have tons of cash that is. Then
she will fuck someone else and you will never ever know. You can still
leave her at the altar, but she will try to make you pay for it.
6). After marriage, the woman starts to attempt to reduce your status to that of marital slave. This is where the hardcore abuse
starts with serious attempts to make you absolutely dependent on her.
The moment you slipped the ring on her finger, she started planning the
divorce. The wedding is the first attempt to bankrupt you, followed by
constant demands for a bigger and better house you can't afford, new
cars, expensive (yet worthless) crap of all makes and descriptions. To
add icing on the cake, she will attempt to get pregnant with or without
your consent, if you can afford a child or no. This is the stage women
start to really let themselves go, but keep trying to cheat on you.
Often they no longer care if you find out and being caught as it simply
means she gets to fleece you for everything you have.
As you can see, there is a progression. This progression is fairly reliable among different women (stereotypical behavior is a sign of mental illness,
BTW). The farther along in the progression you allow yourself to go,
the harder it is to deal with and the more important it becomes that you
actually deal with it.
. The Four Problems with Serial Monogamy
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There are four problems with serial monogamy.
1) The woman won’t really be monogamous. Unless you are with her every
moment of every day, she will sleep around behind your back, usually
with high risk partners. If you ARE with her every moment of every day,
she will hit on men in front of your face. This is really an issue of
respect. A monogamous lover gets no respect.
2) Monogamy to a woman means she is setting you up for exploitation. Her
ability to do that is very limited unless you are married. The pressure
to get married will go up exponentially, the longer you are together.
It tends to be covert, rather than overt. Very quickly, she will
manufacture a reason that she HAS to move in with you. It will be very
convincing (ie she will become homeless if you don’t help her). Worse,
she will get pregnant on purpose. As far as condoms go, I’m sorry to say
you have no choice but to use them 100% of the time and hide them so
she can’t poke holes in them. You’ve been warned.
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3) Despite the universal push for marriage, the relationship is time
limited….several months to a couple of years….WHETHER YOU MARRY HER OR
NOT! Being married and/or having children won’t change her sleeping
around behind your back, one bit.
4) And most insidious….monogamy is a tool women use to make you
dependent on them. As time passes, your seduction skills atrophy. Often,
she tries to fatten you up, to make you less attractive…..anything to
eliminate your ability to get another woman. She will then ration love,
affection and sex, to get what she wants….and use the threat of
abandonment to make you give in to the most unreasonable (unreasonable
as in, having a boyfriend on the side, unreasonable). Eventually, she
will abandon you. The point is, she doesn’t make you dependent because
she wants to keep you (indeed, she will soon dispose of you). She does
this because she is preparing to abuse you and wants to make it so that
if you left, you would never get another woman.
It is a very bad idea to allow any one woman to become too important.
Self-sufficiency, ability to choose among partners, and extremely low
tolerance for bullshit should be your goals.
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It is a mistake to argue with women. Arguments are all about words and
women in our culture don’t match up words with actions and freely say
things that don’t make sense and then deny that they don’t make sense.
In short, they aren’t honest when trying to solve problems using
discussion, negotiation and compromise. The reason they aren’t honest is
because they are trying to be abusive and exploitative rather than
having relationships based on mutual love and respect.
Instead, deal with women in the realm of behavior. Point to a behavior
you don’t like and tell her to stop, or point out a missing behavior of
hers and tell her to do it. Never discuss why you don’t like it or why
you want her to do something. Get used to saying the word NO….a lot. And
NEVER discuss things in terms of right and wrong (it’s enough that YOU
want it). Always have a consequence lined up if she refuses, and ALWAYS
come through with that consequence. Flakey girls get dumped, if you get
my drift. This only works if you have her replacement waiting in the
wings to take her place (your needs, not people’s expectations, are
what’s important). Understand that, in our culture, ALL girls are flakey
and need to be dumped sooner or later, so don’t hesitate to do so, or
let them get away with anything. As this behavior among men becomes
common (and it is), women’s flakiness will drop off dramatically.
. She's Lying
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The problem here is that women lie about anything and everything….often
for no reason at all. Most men, not being liars themselves, never
consider that other people, particularly their women friends and loved
ones, are liars. It takes getting burned, often several times, before a
man wakes up to rule number one when dealing with women……don’t listen to
anything they say, no matter how minor, because it’s a lie. That’s not
enough though. It takes major education and rehabilitation before men
even learn about rule number two (let alone, live it)…..you are the most
important person in any relationship with women.
1) Who cares what they say. It’s either a lie or a manipulation and usually both. So don’t listen to it.
2) I am the only important person in my relationships (no matter the type) with women.
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It’s important to understand the ”woman who is the expception”
phenomena. You WILL run into women (probably many women) who seem to
not be this way. You will be tempted to break rules 1 and 2. DON’T DO
IT! Women are sociopaths….perfect actors. A great many of them are into
the whole, “I’m different” thing. They absolutely are NOT. They are the
most dangerous because you will think you’ve found the real thing,
completely arrange your life, mind and soul around them and then get
destroyed. For months or years, you will be so overwhelmingly overjoyed
that (unlike all those other losers) you actually have love in your life
from a woman who truly cares about you. This is the worst and most
insidious of lies and once it is revealed, well, there’s nothing left.
Falling for the “woman who is the exception”, is a good way to end up
contemplating eating a gun. Don’t do that either. It is possible to have
good relationships with women but only if you force it to be on your
terms and understand that they are time limited. You enjoy them for as
long as they last. Understand that they will be over, probably sooner,
rather than later (so you want to leave at the first sign of bad
behavior) and you have to constantly engage in behaviors that bring new
women into your life.
. Everything Out of a Woman's Mouth is a Lie!
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Everything out of a woman’s mouth is a lie…..especially when they want
you to talk to them about something. There can be no resolution of
problems because there is no transparency, no introspective honesty on
their part. What they want, as far as this goes, is to be heard, not to
communicate. The act of being heard by another is addictive to them. If
you are a good listener and can clamp down on your own need to say
stuff, you can manipulate how they see you, and, indirectly, how they
treat you. Good treatment comes when a woman sees you as powerful,
desirable and very much prone to being stolen by the competition. One
thing that has zero effect on how they treat you is talking things out,
and working through relationship issues. The reason is simple. While you
may be sincere and motivated to have a deep meaningful relationship
based on equality, trust and mutual caring, respect, warmth and
love…..she NEVER is. She may pretend to but it is an exercise in pain,
as she manipulates you into doing one inappropriate thing after another
while constantly changing the rules at random. But, take one step
outside that door, and see her behavior change instantly. Of course,
eventually, she will boot your ass right out that very same door. But
she was going to do that eventually, anyway.
. Pook #6 – Lesson Three: Judge By Actions, Not By Words
. You Cannot Change Women
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There are three things you need if you want a lot of women to be
attracted to you. The first is you need to be in shape. Not being fat is
good but being muscular is better. The second thing you need is the
right clothes. What are the right clothes? The clothes that women react
positively to you in (as opposed to the clothes you want to be wearing).
Want to learn more about the right clothes than you ever wanted to
know? Go sign up for one of R Don Steele’s workshops on this. Be polite.
Steele isn’t known for tolerating bad behavior….at all. The third thing
you need is the right attitude. Whole books can and have been written
about this. But, the crux of the issue is you must be completely
assertive with a woman, have options and be willing to dump women who
engage in bad behavior. Steele is a good source and I highly recommend
his books.
Click Pic for "Work With The World; Don't Fight Against It"
However, that being said, you cannot change women, you cannot change
women, you CANNOT change women. Your relationship is time limited. There
is no way around that. You cannot make decisions about women that
contradict that fact. If you do you most certainly will suffer. Your
ability to enjoy that time with the woman is strictly dependent on how
vigilant you are and how much power
you cultivate in relationships. Once your power is gone, it’s gone, and
you can’t get it back. If you allow a woman to stay when you have no
power over her, she will destroy you (dump any woman you don’t have
power over, immediately). How do you know you have no power over her?
She feels free to engage in bad behavior. Now all women do this a little
bit to test you. The difference is when you call her on it, she laughs
in your face instead of stopping. Most men give up their power a few
weeks into a relationship. Big mistake.
My point here is: don’t spend too much time worrying about theories with
regard to women. Stay focussed on behaviours…..learning and refining
what works from what doesn’t. There is a hell of a lot out there that
sounds good but is worthless. Pull little bits and pieces and test them
out. Keep what works and discard the rest.
. No, no, No, NO, NO!!!
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Quite obviously all women have become insane.
It’s not that they eschew logic (actually, they are quite good at
coming up with rationalizations). It’s that they spend the lion’s share
of their efforts seeking out insane situations, engaging in insane
behaviors and basically destroying themselves and anyone stupid enough
to allow them the tiniest bit of say in their lives. The solution is
equally obvious……don’t give them even the tiniest bit of say in your
life. When I say tiniest, I mean it. No matter what they ask for, no
matter how innocuous, you must say no to it. You must never ask them for
anything, even the simplest, most smallest thing. If you want something
from them you must tell them to give it to you. Although you say it
nicely, it must be a command. The very second they say no to you, you
need to dump them.
Click Pic for "You're Such a Tool! (Briffault's Law)"
It’s sad to say, but that’s what it takes just to prevent a woman from
ruining your life, which she will do 100% of the time if you don’t do
this. A woman can and will move on,
eventually to find someone who will let them ruin their life for them.
Not enough men know about this yet, although many more know about it
today than just a few short years ago. Eventually, most men will know it
and women will have few to no options for this. They will have to
change or do without. It will start with relationships first. Few to no
men will get married each year and a great many men will seek wives from
outside cultures. Next, these same men will look at women in the work place and ask, "Hey, do these female employees have merit?" You’ll find few women being promoted unless they can do the job.
Last to change will be the courts, as more and more, it is discovered
that MOST of the female issues in court are based on lies. Most rape cases….lies.
Most alimony/child (mommy) support based on lies. It will become very
common for courts to assume a woman is lying about certain
issues…..especially with regard to non-stranger rape and almost
everything with regard to divorce.
However, it all starts with one simple word…..no. No is the magic word
that will protect you from women…..today. No, we won’t get married. No,
you can’t move in with me. No, I don’t want to meet your parents. No,
that kid isn’t mine. No, you can’t have any money. No, I just don’t want
a monogamous relationship. No. No. No. No. NO.
. The Number One Mistake Most Men Make with Women Is... Talking to Them!
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I think you are making the number one mistake that most men make with
women. You are talking to them. Trying to have an honest, equal,
intelligent conversation with them is like me trying to explain to
Pushkin that terrorists, Nazis, and Satan worshipers are bad people…..a
fruitless endeavour. The problem is, they’re nuts and most of their
mental power is focussed on rationalizing their nutty behavior. They
will take every avenue to twist the truth in ways that are amazing to
behold, and God forbid you should pin them down and dissect exactly what
they are doing…..they hate you forever for it (and just keep on,
keeping on). What’s the point?
Quite frankly, if you don’t want something from her (and let’s face it,
that means pussy), then you shouldn’t be talking to her. If she shows no
interest in giving you what you want in the near future, you should not
be talking to her. Now, let’s say you want something from her and she
is giving you major signals that she wants to give it to you. You need
to talk to her. However, keep in mind two things. First, within reason,
the less you talk the better. The more you listen to her, the more a
brilliant conversationalist you seem (they are COMPLETELY self-centered
and only one subject is a guaranteed hit…..themselves). The less you
reveal about yourself the better. Women don’t love you, they love the
fantasy of you and all that revealing just bursts their bubble. The
second is anything you do say should be completely goal focussed. Think
about this. You want something from her. The things you say to her
should have the goal of opening the path to her giving it to you. If you
are talking about something (rather than inane small talk) or
explaining something, you have drifted away from your goal and are
fucking up.
When talking to women, there are three things that should be coming out
of your mouth. Inane small talk about something unimportant that you are
both observing. Open ended questions about her. And various techniques
for fostering attraction (for example, David D’Angelo has an excellent
series on this). If one of these three things isn’t coming out of your
mouth, you are probably explaining something or arguing. Although it’s
satisfying to be heard by someone, it is fostering a negative image with
her and every other woman observing you with her. You are driving the
pussy off with a stick. Sad, but true.
. The Problem with Discussing Things with Women
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The problem with discussing things with women is their half of the
debate is essentially made up on the spot with no basis in reality and
subject to change instantly to either prove them right or to support a
decision they’ve already made at random. That’s a big difference between
men and women. Men use critical thinking to make decisions while women
use critical thinking to rationalize decisions they’ve already made. If
the decision they made worked, the rationalization tends to be of high
quality. If the decision fails (usually, it does) then the quality of
the rationalization is intentionally poor, to cover up specific things
they did that caused the failure and to avoid taking responsibility and
(gasp) change, at all costs. Obviously, you can’t work out things or
negotiate with a person who does this and shouldn’t even try. A side
effect is they will hate you if you manage to box them in a corner
analytically and will disrespect you if you just give up. It’s a
lose/lose situation, so why bother? The limit should be……Hey, I’m going
out to “fill in the blank”, wanna come? No. Ok…..bye. The bad news is
she made that decision at random. So, you can’t change her mind (well,
sometimes you can, but it’s degrading and just not worth the effort).
The good news is, ask enough women and one will randomly say yes.
This is a far cry from being normal. But it is what it is. Normal would
be a woman only considering men she thought were attractive and then
getting to know men from that pool until she found one that was
compatible, then focussing her attention on that man until love started
to develop. Then start a sexual relationship with that man. No woman
does that.
. Who Cares What Women Are Thinking?
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Who cares what a woman may or may not be thinking inside? What matters
is their behavior…..how predictable it is and most importantly, how you
can (or cannot) get them to behave. You cannot get them to be honest,
not cheat on you or respond positively to virtuous behavior. What you
CAN do is get them to treat you nicely in the short term and severely
limit the damage they can cause when they inevitably leave.
What’s going on with women is that they are freakin’ psychos.
And being insane, it’s impossible to have a sane intimate relationship
with them. You can either be forced to have an insane intimate
relationship with them or you can have a sane relationship where you
keep your distance.
Sad to say but relationships with women in this country are about power,
not love. If you give up the former in pursuit of the latter, you will
suffer.
However, I agree that one should never blame women for the way they are.
Judgement is the first step toward acceptance of responsibility, then
forgiveness and redemption. Women just aren’t capable of participating
in that. Although men are and always should when necessary.
. What Matters is the Amount of Power and Choice You Have in a Relationship
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You know, if women really were only looking for a good provider, it
wouldn’t be that big of a deal. I mean, in most cultures it seems that
part of what men are expected to provide is security for their wife and
family.
The problem comes from the fact that most american woman are stuck in
such a negative vibe. They don’t want a nice home, financial security
and the best for themselves and their children. What they want is to
exploit a man for cash while they screw around with drug dealers. They
don’t respect themselves and they certainly don’t respect the
provider…….which is why men avoid marriage.
I guess what I am saying is the problem is NOT a misunderstanding of the
roles between men and women, miscommunications, needs not being met,
whatever (despite what tons of closet homos, like Dr Phil would have you
believe). The problem is the quality of the character of the average
woman is very, very low.
One, you have no control over that. They will NEVER change, no matter
what you do, unless they decide on their own to change for their own
reasons (realistically, that just doesn’t happen). The only thing you
can do is switch women constantly, making sure each new woman has a
character that is better and better. But, since noble character is
soooooo rare, it is the quality that gives a woman the most status. In
other words, a good woman can demand any type of partner she chooses and
get it. Unless you have worked your way up the status ladder, she has
no reason to give you the time of day. Much less so than say, a
penthouse pet would or an rich heiress like Paris Hilton would.
But two, you have to make damn sure you have the lions share of the
power in any relationships you have. Why? Because you will have to
constantly control negative behavior from those you are involved with.
If you can’t or won’t, it will rapidly escalate into severe abuse. If you allow it to become very advanced, it will result in a marriage, plus kids, and then divorce, personal ruin and despair.
It’s sad to say but you cannot solve this problem by being sane, loving,
and nurturing in a relationship. Although that is nice, it is
irrelevant. What matters is the amount of power and choice you have.
Both niceguys and evil men are harmed by women when they haven’t
cultivated power in relationships. And both niceguys and evil men can
have success with women, but only if they cultivate power and choice
instead of love with women. The difference is the niceguy does it in a
positive way. He says says no to all requests
and refuses monogamous relationships. Although he cares about women, he
is completely detached. The evil man, slaps a woman down when she “gets
out of line” and laughs in her face whenever she expresses a desire or
need. Everything out of his mouth is a lie or a putdown.
What is horrible is women cannot tell the difference between benevolent
detachment and callous indifference. They are both equally attractive to
them.
. Men Who Sleep on the Couch
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This topic is one of the many problems that happens when you allow a woman to weasel her way into living with you
(which is part of the point as to why she wanted to). You can’t easily
leave. You definitely can’t leave without destroying the relationship.
Contrast this with what you could do if you weren’t living together.
"Look babe, I’m just not satisfied with your behavior. I’ll be back when
you decide to behave. If it happens too many times, I won’t come back."
Not sleeping with her (especially if you are sleeping with someone else)
becomes empowering, rather than disempowering. Of course, she can do
the same thing, but while your your desirability goes up when you do this, hers goes down. Plus, don’t kid yourself; she is going to do it anyway. Why should you accept the problems inherent in monogamy when she won’t?
My point here is, you lost the fight waaaaay back when you allowed her
to move in with you, not when it comes down to her trying to get you to
sleep on the couch. Also, if she is doing this, it means your
relationship is over. She may hang on (sometimes for quite a bit) but
the good times are done and she is looking for your replacement. This is
a harsh, complicated thing when living together. But when not living
together, it is as simple as erasing her number off your speed dial.
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. The Value of Men Maintaining Their Own Spaces
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I found a great comment by someone called Ray Wolfson while I was reading 5 Ways To Eject From A Relationship over at Return of Kings.
He touched on a lot of points that are worth considering and this
shouldn't just dwindle away into the abyss of comment land. I like how
he talks about how to deal with women's nesting habits in a way that
allows for a functional lifestyle - in other words, maintain your own
place apart from hers, and then go hang out at her place all the time,
where you basically live... but not really, and you have the ability to
"get away." Not only does this kind of arrangement take care of those
pesky common-law legalities that increasingly seek to enslave men in the
same ridiculous manner as modern marriage & divorce, but it also
helps to lubricate the relationship by maintaining a bit of mystery.
And, of course, you are never under her thumb as her little kitchen
bitch. If she starts behaving ridiculously, as all relationships seem to
steer towards in time, you have the ability to say "See ya, Toots!" and
be done with her in under a day. This ability to stand your ground in
the face of irrational behaviour, rather than acting like a servile worm
in her house, will only help to maintain a higher level of respect within the relationship.
It would easily do the trick for me as a get-away/hang-out where I could
go to for a while, and as an address separate from a girlfriend to
eliminate common-law status, and also as an emergency "landing pad" if
ever needed. Think about how much money men lose by being forced into
pseudo-marriages through common-law BS. Suddenly owning a little shack
somewhere seems like an interesting investment, if it protects your
greater assets from the family court system.
I have been in a few long term relationships... it depends on her age and yours and if you and her want kids.
At the end of the day a long term relationship without kids is almost
not worth having (plus she'll probably fill your house with horrid
lapdogs and cats once she hits menopause) My father is still bed
hopping at 70+ and he says it gets easier because the older gals are
much more mellow and accepting, but he does get into relationships
that last. It is nice to have a special someone tied down, It's just
not nice to be tied up !!!
So you really have to know what you want. If you want to start a
family with the girl and go for real long term, then it's a simple
equation, one that I have totally screwed up over the last few years, so
take it from someone who has learned by mistakes big time.....
Firstly women like to nest, so provide her with that nest. The
male turkeys build huge nests and then invite the females in. This
has worked great for me with one huge BUT....once the female is in your
nest - long term - it's not your nest any more it's HER NEST!
Therefore to maintain independence, status, protect your assets and
so forth, (and be able to run a little game on the side) you need to set
her up in your nest... make it her nest, but keep somewhere else for
yourself (easy if you are self employed like me) then you can
come and go as you please with impunity.
If things get tense you disappear for a couple of weeks.....
You have to firewall the asset and the 'family' nest as something you can literally walk away from same day.
This has been my mistake. I love chilling at home and I work from
home and I'm always around, so basically way too available I think
this is the mistake a lot of men make in LTRs (Long-term Relationships). It's not your home
it's HERS. You can set her up in it and then come and go and
basically maintain your status like a lover. The best LTR I had was
with a girl who had her own place, and that place became like my pad in a
sense, but I was always visiting her. She loved it when i arrived,
greeted my like the finest 10 at the local brothel. It was
fantastic. She wanted her man back in her nest. You see the
difference!
Unless you do that, when things get difficult, your comfort, your
base, your emotional center, your orientation etc. is all based around
your 'home' where you live with her. She starts making that tense and
awkward and your whole life falls apart and you feel homeless. You end up
like that cliche guy getting a motel room for the night to get some
peace. This is stressful disorientating, expensive, unproductive and
shitty.
So you create a home with her, set her up long term, prenup, get
married... GO FOR IT! But keep your distance and keep her AND your
home with her at arm's length. Be able to write it off - then you
will never have to!
Women in an LTR get under your skin. They discuss your life and work
and business and everything with you. It all seems so harmless and warm,
soft, friendly etc... HOWEVER.... when you need some space (or want
to bang a hottie on the weekend) the LTR girl is all over you like a
rash. She knows your work schedule, your family, your friends. You're
like a 14 year old, giving her excuses just to go out for a Saturday
night, even if it's just for a beer with some mates from work and
nothing is going to happen. Shit i've had a girl in an LTR get
jealous because i went for a jog in the forest for an hour on a Tuesday
morning.
If you watch the TV show Mad Men, you see how all these guys in the
60s had important careers and stay home wives cooking them meals when
they got home etc.etc. and one of the dynamics I loved about that old
school LTR is the man's world remains this impressive mystery to the
woman.
The same girl I had an LTR with i mentioned above, where we
basically lived out of her place but I'd come and go... on our first
date I told her I was an arms dealer, smuggling weapons to Africa. Of
course she knew this was a joke, but with me coming and going on
business, and away for a week here and a week there, it remained very
exciting to her.
The mystery of my world, even if I was hell stressed with work... I
was doing IT and Telecom setups and travelling alot... it kept her
panties wet and I always maintained this aloof mystery. I never
discussed my work with her. "DONT WANT TO TALK ABOUT IT!" My
world was a mystery and I came and went as I pleased. She hated it
in a way and always nagged me to move in with her properly and
finally stonewalled me to break up or move in fully... I called her
bluff and split. I could see what was going to happen was I'd move
in and she'd slowly get bored of having me around 24/7. The solution
was not to break up with her, but carry on the dynamic of keeping her
in orbit around me and my world, rather than allowing myself to be
dragged into orbiting her rather shrink wrapped world. We could have
rented a bigger apartment and put my name on the lease, and then I could
have carried on exactly as before, for 10-20 years with kids and the
lot. It was that easy... and she would have loved it and hated it.
You see women are never happy because what they love, they also
hate. They hate being boned and controlled by this big male... but
they also love it. You can never make that happy. You can only
keep it just in the sweet spot where you want it to be. THINK ABOUT
IT!
Even the most dull unimaginative middle management woman can make an
excellent wife, home maker, momma, partner, LTR, work a job, bring in
some cash etc. etc... provided you only spend that perfect amount of
time with her, so she is amping for more, never quite gets enough of
you..... and you don't get bored of her.
I think alot of these LTRs die because the man gets bored to
tears. The woman senses his lack of interest and starts pushing him
away. Solution? Keep your distance. Analyze how many hours per
week can i really spend with this person... halve that number and stick
to the program...
It's well known that Christmas and holidays are the time when most
family breakups occur. WHY? Because too much time together =
stifling, boring, tedious and GET THE FUCK OUTTA HERE!
The earth orbits the sun at the correct distance, the electron orbits
the proton at the correct distance. Make her your electron.. Be the
proton. Be her sun at the centre of her universe. Don't be her moon
manically in orbit around her.
This of course is exactly what happens to the poor schelp like me. I
built a lovely home, with all my gadgets, office and so forth, work
only a few hours a day, love my place, but she gets fed up with me
lurking about all the time, and starts pushing me out. Now I feel
like I'm in orbit around my home base whereas if i'd had my home
base - my centre of gravity - somewhere else and her installed in "our
home," she'd still be in orbit around me.
Ain't gravity a bitch !
When the electron gets too close to the proton it merges and creates a
neutron. Oops! Neuter boy and frigid girl. No sex for them
tonight. Don't let her get too close to destroy it. The problem with
all this equality and so forth is we want to discuss and debate and
negotiate everything, so the electron (the female) gets too close.
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What I mean by leagues is who is the woman hanging around. There
are certain groups of people who only mingle among themselves and don’t
allow outsiders to join them. Many women lie, and say they are out of
your league. What they mean by this is they have confused their ideal of
looks with an ideal that everyone has. They aren’t attracted to you, so
you must be ugly (the biggest, most common lie women tell us).
Unless
she is going to parties over at Bill Gates house, or is the CEO of a
company, she is most definitely in your league. You could line 100 of
her up (not that difficult to do) and one of them would go, “Oh yeah,
baby, you’re the guy for me”. The exact same number that you would get
if you lined up 100 truck stop waitresses, etc. We all pretend there are
stratifications among the 90% of everyone who is average. But, there
aren’t. Not in our culture. Instead, people pair up in a semi-random
way, controlled mostly by whomever happens to be hanging around. But,
who says you have to limit yourself to who is hanging around? Once you
know about this situation, you can go looking for it. You’ll be shocked
by what you find.
The problem is that one doesn’t whistle at you as you walk down the
street. You need to do things to get her to reveal herself. Meanwhile,
she is home alone, wondering why great guys like you never give her the
time of day. Hilarious.
Click Pic for "Finding the Small Pool of Interested Women"
Try this experiment on a regular basis. Dress up in a reasonable fashion
(ie wear normal clothes that are clean and in reasonable
condition…bathe and be groomed). Then go to the mall and walk around.
Keep an open posture at all times, relaxed with a open look on your face
and a slight smile….and just stroll around. Every time you pass a
woman, look her in the eye for a second or two. Do this a hundred times
and think about the results. Most women will do some form of avoiding
your gaze. An obnoxious minority will make a face at you (stupid
bitches). A significant number will be open and friendly toward you. And
one or two will look like they want to knock you down, rip your clothes
off and fuck you right there. Be sure to smile and nod at any woman who
looks like that…..if you want her or not. Why, because it shows very
clearly the next step. Your smile and nod are the first step of talking
to her and getting her as a part of your life. Notice the dramatic
difference in her behavior vs every other freaking woman you ever have
contact with. Only women who are like this are really worth any
significant amount of your time. Only women in the “friendly” category
are worth being nice to. Everyone else can go fuck themselves. Why?
Because it has nothing to do with you. Only with them.
But, most importantly, note the randomness of the whole damn thing. Ugly
girls laugh in your face, moms with kids being open and friendly, nuns
and teenage sex goddesses looking at you with lust…..all at random. All
hidden until you went looking for it.
. Women's Requirements in a Man
. QUOTE: I’ve been turned down for a date because the girl only wanted
to date a guy with blue eyes. Mine are brown. So I didn’t get a date.
And yes, as you can tell, I’m all broken up over it. Yeah.
The correct response to something like this is to laugh in the woman’s
face, roll your eyes in that “I can’t believe what a fucking loser you
are” manner and walk away. When a woman has a weird attitude like this,
she is telling you quite clearly, and in no uncertain terms, that
something is wrong with her. She doesn’t know how to play the game and
will likely end up failing at it. Either she will end up with nobody or
she will end up with an obese, ugly, smelly, unemployed guy…..with blue
eyes.
This is a lot different than a woman saying, "I want a guy I’m heavily
attracted to physically." Or "I want a guy who I find interesting to
talk to." Or one of lots of different criteria that fall under personal
taste. Those things speak directly to the enjoyment of her being with
the guy. Blue eyes don’t fit the bill with that. It shows she is
clueless about how her choices affect the quality of her life. One day,
she will look back at her crappy as hell life and go, “How the hell did I
end up here?”
. Seeking After Money Is Not An Effective Means of Attracting Women
. My whole point in posting this research is to show that, no, seeking
after money is NOT an effective means of getting women and sex.
What’s
going on here is two-fold.
First, women are women are choosing most sexual partners at random
with a small percentage of women (gold diggers) choosing a man based on
money (only lots of money will do) but as a means of exploitation and
have having no intention of doing anything but burning the relationship
to get their hands on that money.
Second, most women are lying about the randomness thing. They list a whole bunch of attributes
(including income) that they want in a man. When they randomly reject
you, they bring up lack in any of these attributes as the reason, and
the very next day are with someone who has none of the attributes on
that list. Hypocrisy. Income (height is another one) is a favourite
because women list qualifications that only a tiny fraction of men meet.
It’s a handy way to reject you. However, it’s total bullshit. The truth
is, if she won’t her sister will or her friends will. That is the
truth. Men can (and do) make themselves crazy trying to meet the
qualifications of women. They work out obsessively, work 80 hour weeks, dress in insanely expensive clothes, get all manner of plastic surgery,
and a lot of other goofy stuff to try and “measure up”. It just doesn’t
work. It doesn’t work because the idea of objective measures of a man is
just a scam. Women are lying.
If you redid this study with other objective measures…..things like lean
muscle mass, height, education, dominance, whatever, you would find the
exact same thing. The only exceptions would be fame (if you are on TV,
you are going to get laid) and deviance (criminal history, drugs,
violence etc.)
This has implications for a man’s strategies for dealing with women.
Work on THEM, work on the situation, don’t waste time working on
yourself.
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QUOTE: "People say they are attracted to confidence, but how often
do you meet a confident person who doesn't tend to act like a jerk? It's
all too common for mere confidence to cross the threshold into
arrogance. But that's what people want." 
There are problems with women. These problems are specific,
identifiable, and universal in western culture. The problems have
extremely serious consequences for men who do not take the correct steps
to prevent those consequences. 
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